Friday, March 13, 2009

The Proposal.

Cahaya & Along @ Oldtown Kopitiam

I can't help not to notice happiness through Along's eyes when Mummy told that someone actually asking Along's hand in marriage last 3 weeks. Along acted normal. Seems didn't care at all. But I know, deep in Along's heart, she actually singing.

I knew about this earlier, few months back. Everyone knew. But not Along. Mummy kept it secret as she didn't want to put Along's hopes high. She will be 32 this year, in April. Maybe it's the best time to settle down.

Mummy just got back from Kuching last Sunday. I can told by the looks of her face when I first saw her at the airport. Frustration. And maybe guilt. Mummy had to carry big news for Along. She pretended like nothing has happened. But, it was so obvious.

Mummy known for her can't-pretend talent. I know she tried her best not to burst the news too early. But like me, Along can smell something was not right too. She confronted Mummy the next day.

There will be no wedding for Along. At least not for the time being.

I was at work when it happen. Along SMSed me.

Good morning!!! I've asked Mak already about orang Sarawak tu coz I got six sense hehehe..... something is wrong... dah nak kawin dah... Mak kata camana tau... Along cakap six sense le plus kiasan die... Mak kata die nak cite pas ni tapi Along dah tanya dulu.

Ohh. I'm so sorry. How do you feel? Are you okay sis? I actually knew about this last few days. Mak suruh jangan bagitau. And I respect her decision. I hope you understand. Are you okay sis?

Kau tanya sedih le lak ada org concern. X pe as I told u I don't want to put up hope until I get kepastian macam ni. Now I can move on. Nasib baru tahu 2 minggu hehe. Along pun dah sembahyang hajat dah, kalau baik cepatkan, kalau x, I've prayed to give the answer to the uncertainty.

Alhamdulillah. Good for you. I hope you're okay. And everything can be back to normal again, without all the tension. Hopefully. Don't worry sis. We always have each other. Kan? Lagipun that guy dah tak kerja kan? Tak rugi lah!


It must be hard for Along. :( I don't know what would be if I'm in her shoe.

I've read from landaklaut about marriage and jodoh. As usual, I think it's more to ayat penyedap hati. Maybe it's true. And maybe not.

From the post,

Jodoh tiada kaitan dengan keturunan. Hanya belum sampai masanya. Ia bagai menanti jambatan untuk ke seberang. Kalau panjang jambatannya jauhlah perjalanan kita. Ada org jodohnya cepat sebab jambatannya singkat. Usia 25 tahun rasanya belumlah terlalu lewat. Dan usia 35 tahun belum apa² kalau sepanjang usia itu telah digunakan untuk membina kecemerlangan.

Jika tidak sanggup untuk bergelar isteri tidak usah berkahwin dulu. Jika merasakan diri belum cukup ilmu untuk bergelar ibu ataupun ayah, belajarlah dulu. Jika rasa² belum bersedia untuk bersabar dgn kerenah anak², carilah dulu kesabaran itu. Jangan berkahwin dahulu sebab kenyataannya ramai yang tidak bersedia untuk melangkah tetapi telah melompat, akhirnya jatuh terjerumus dan tidak jumpa akar berpaut tatkala cuba mendaki naik.

Tell me what you think. :) Have a nice day!

61 comments:

This is Mine said...

ooo....


adakah disebabkan ini yang membuatkan akak asyik...

senyum...

senyum....


&

senyum???


;)

CAHAYA said...

Lor, kenapa nak senyum. Bukan akak yang orang minang. Adoilah adikku. Sah2 bukan Cahaya. :P

MariaFaizal said...

Dik,
I agree that if we're not ready to be married, just wait. When the time is right, Allah will give us the 'hints'.

I waited till I was almost 30 to get married. And, I'm glad I did...

Cheers dik!

This is Mine said...

ades....

maksudku disini adalah ak tumpang gembira la....

ke bukan??

kalau bukan, farah malu...
*mane lak beg cokelat nie..nk sorok muka.... hahaha~

=P

AHMADSUFI6177 said...

hhmmm... aku xpaham sagt inggeris... tapi rasa2nya mak ker yang org masuk minang???

CAHAYA said...

Sis MariaFaizal,

Yeah! I thought the same too. InsyaAllah, God's willing, He definitely will give us (single ladies) the 'hints'.

p/s: I'll wait for my 'hint'. :)

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Farah,

Haha. Takpe2. But Cahaya smile sebab lain. Huhu. :)

p/s: sindrom rindu plak skang ni.

CAHAYA said...

ahmadsufi,

Mungkin Cahaya yang salah explain kot. Sorry yer. haha. Taklah. Kakakku terchenta yang dipinang. :) Mak tukang bawa berita. :P

Sherita Aziz said...

OMG!!! mimie is getting married.. terus sms gossip dgn kengkawan lain yg kenal dia...

hi hi hi

i.am.belle said...

oh. aku rasa umur itu hanya angka. jgn tergesa2 nak kahwin. kalau jumpa org yg sesuai dan kita selesa thn it will be the nxt step.

kak long you tiada jodoh dgn dia. pasti ada hikmah disebaliknya.Allah Maha Mengetahui.

;D

Sherita Aziz said...

laaaaaaaa.... i baca headline and jump on the conclusion... maluuuuuuuuuuuuu

CAHAYA said...

SheritaAziz,

You should read until the end la Cikgu. And please, correct my grammar mistakes as well. Lol.

p/s: Y are not at Ella's wedding?

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i.am.belle,

Betul sesangat. Dah la tak kenal hati budi kan? Nak main kawen sesaje. Hish. Taknak la macam tu. Kalau boleh kenal hati budi. Takut kawen 12 hari je. Ops!

Jodoh pertemuan di tangan Tuhan. InsyaAllah ada jodoh yang lebih baik nanti.

Sherita Aziz said...

i'm just high on the euphoria today, happy sangat and kalut.. cepat cepat komen kan.... silly me...maluuuuuuu!!

CAHAYA said...

Sherita,

Yes dear, you overdoing it! Hish! Again, why are not at Ella's wedding. Lol.

Sherita Aziz said...

nobody told me about Ella's wedding...

so by any chance,, do you know azleen, faith, mat jack.. they're pretty close with your along

CAHAYA said...

Haha. Ye ke? High on euphoria eh? Jangan high lain sudaaaaahh. :) lol.

CAHAYA said...

Yep sherry. I know them quite well. And almost everyone ada kot. I guess I know u too right? Maybe by name je kot. Tak pernah jumpa. :) So, u belajar sekali kat Plymouth ke babe?

Sherita Aziz said...

azleen aka amoi pon ada kat wedding tuh? uwaaaa.. she didn't inform me!!!!

about plymouth and stuffs....no comment.. he he he.....

but your along is quite an elderly sis, she always talk about her little brothers and sisters, always think about them whenever we're shopping in UK and in Europe...

opsss....

TuN TeJa said...

hehe..umo tu hnya angka..yg penting hati kita tu..da ready blom nk pikul tggungjawab...

CAHAYA said...

Sherita Aziz,

I'm not sure about Amoi. Takde kot. But, Faith and Uda ada. Plus few yang I pun tak ingat nama dia.

Yeah! She's so caring. Even till now. I sanggup bayar kalau dia nak ber'socialize' okay. Just she not that type yang huha. Kan?

But takde pun I dapat barang apa2. Haha. :)

p/s: Gosh! I love my sis.

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TunTeja,

Yep, umur itu angka. Tapi kalau dilengkapi dgn kedut2 dimuka. Harus pengsan! Haha.

Jadi ke tak turun cik Adik?

Jard The Great said...

hehe... jodoh dah smpi.. baguih la...

CAHAYA said...

Jard sah2 tak baca sampai abis kan? Ndak patut. Hish. :P

This is Mine said...

p/s: sindrom rindu plak skang ni.

rindu??

tententen....

siapakah yang dirindu??

kita tgggggguuuuuuuuu~~~~


ngeee~~~

;)

Ad Rifza said...

Haa betul kata Tun Teja tu umur hanya angka sahaja...Kalo umur 40 pn belum bersedia so no need to kawin..TAPI persediaan itu perlu dipupuk supaya permulaan langkah itu ada..Tanpa diusik hati manakan hendak menjadi..Then Allah telah tetapkan segalanya bagi kita hambanya..Bila MASA itu tiba ia tidak dapat dihalang lagi kerana berontakan hati itu kuat hanya untuk kawin jer..
Dan sepanjang menuju MASA itu akan datang pelbagai offer atau "hint hint" yang akan membawa kearah MASA itu..Percayalah Allah adil dalam takdirNYA..Insyallah..

HEMY said...

jap
aku blur..yg nk kawin ni along tu ke..or mak hang???

caturist said...

Kahwin tu sangat indah.. apabila kita suda bersedia untuk menukar cara hidup.

Takde lagi engkau atau aku.. semuanya kita.

Tak lengkap hidup ni kalu tak kawin.. hehehe

CAHAYA said...

Farah,

Seperti biasa. Tungguuuuuuuu. Haha.

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AdRifza,

Memang umur hanya angka, tapi kaum Melayu ni susah. Asyik tanya je bila nak kawen. Hish!

InsyaAllah ada jodoh lebih baik utk Along nanti.

CAHAYA said...

Hemy,

Erk. Pandai2 la figure out. Rasa2? Mak Cahaya masih bersuami. Kakak blom. :P

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Caturist,

Btol. Kena komited dan tidak takut komitment. Semuanya kena fikir bersama. Kan? Kena sepakat.

InsyaAllah akan kawen satu hari nanti kalau ada jodoh.

zara said...

hehe..lawakla..nape la org bleh kata mak u yg i pinang..hehe.tetiba I baca lagi skali nape la plak gitu jadinye.. hahhaaha..

btw...takpe..relax je..single pun single la..so wat..kan!

zEn Eizan said...

wah nice la layout blog you ... ajar cket ... ade edisi khas tune hotel kat my blog ... check it out!

CAHAYA said...

Zara,

Trust me, I'm more confused dari diorang plak skang ni. Why eh? Hish. Blur plak.

Yep! Takde jodoh kot, next time lah!

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Zen Eizan,

I know. Gorgeous kan? Thanks so much. Thanks for edisi khas hotel tune itu.

Pasal layout ni, u kena ambil XML file dari mana2 website yang ada bagi free template. Kalau x tahu, msg my YM yer. :)

amirul said...

Salam Cahaya,
Jodoh pertemuan di tangan Tuhan... Kalu bercinta bagai nak rak pun... kalu takde jodoh... ppasti tak jadi... so bebanyakkan bersabo buat Along... InsyaAllah ada jodoh yg terbaik... ameen...

Faisal Admar said...

Again, to me it's just the matter of "Are you ready to get married?".

I can get marry tomorrow if I want to. I got saving for the wedding and I can "work hard" for making baby.

The thing is commitment. Are you ready to get attached with the commitment?

Shallow minded people will think about marriage as a "must". Doesn't matter he or she is ready or not... it comes second. What matter the most is get married before age 30 so that you can have a bunch of kids who will take care of you when you grow old. How true?

Have you see the statistic of how many oldies have been left in Old Folks Home? Go and figure.

... and you say they will take care of you? Well, there is still possibility you will be leaving with others there even though some might say, if you raise them right, they won't be that way. Pray hard :)

So, the big matter is are you ready to get married as I stated earlier. It's about you and her/him. Marriage is not for a day, it's for a lifetime.

Don't make this excerpt haunt you for the rest of your life:

"King/Queen for a day, fool for a lifetime"

Faisal Admar said...

I've written about this before here. Enjoy!

Nik Muhammad Hafiz said...

congrats in the 1st place...2ndly.. photographers...here i am hahahahaha...woahh talking bout jodoh..dang..this is such a big topic to talk about...as in my previous journals..i did mentioned about love..but jodoh..jodoh is just another topic by itself...the common things that we can say about jodoh is..jodoh di tangan Tuhan dia yang menentukan tapi kita yang kena berusaha...its true that marriage is a big step in life and not sure if u bloggers realize it or not...nowadays..people treat marriage like crap..kahwin the bercerai then kahwin lagi then cerai lagi..thats what happened to someone i know whom i met couple of days ago...and i also have a friend age 22 janda anak satu...so..what do u call that? jodoh? often people will relate jodoh and marriage but do they know that there is a thin line between the word jodoh and marriage and do they actually know the true meaning of jodoh and perkahwinan...nowadays..everything is easy for us...handphones...camera phones...5 in one printer and all the kahunas...therefore..people tend to take things slightly off their hand by taking it for granted and this contribute to the ignorance of knowing and to cherish the word jodoh and marriage..senang cerita cam nie laa..at the end of the day..it will boils down to one thing and only one thing... NAK DENGAN TAK NAK!! itu jer sebenarnya...it doenst matter what color u are...what age u are or what is ur family background...nak dengan tak nak is the ultimate answer to everything...but then..as a muslim..we shall not forget that He has the final say "Kun Faya Kun" ..i hope i did answer to ur blog and did not stray away to far...what ever it is pun..congrats again :)

CAHAYA said...

Salam Amirul,

Betul. Bercinta sampai tertonggeng pun kalau ndak ada jodoh pun x guna gak. :)

InsyaALLAH ada la tu nanti jodoh. (Ayat sedapkan hati sendiri. lol)

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Faisal Admar,

Orang kampung I semua shallow minded u ols. Camne? Tekanan sekeliling. It must be hard for my sis. :(

Tapi I ok je. Kadang2 je mellodramatic bila ter'overanxious'. But so far, I managed to come back to real world.

Other than that, I guess anyone will be ready when the time comes. :P

CAHAYA said...

Nik,

1st, I know you didn't read the whole post. Gotcha! Haha. But nvm, it's true what you've said abt jodoh, love and marriage. And if there God's willing, there sure a will. :P

2nd, we need photographer for our gathering. what's your excuse this time?

lol. :P

haritz said...

ada jemputan tak buat blogger semua?
hehe

CAHAYA said...

jemputan ape? xde kenduri pun. ni lagi sorang, tak baca abis. lol. :P

axim said...

makes sense what..kalau tak ready baik jangan kawen lagi kan..

Nik Muhammad Hafiz said...

i notice about the s'kian guy...but yeah...i guess i was reading it too fast to understand ehehehehe..sorry bout that...aiyak..2nd gathering nie is this 14th..i have event on that day...one in the morning and one at nite..and kalau larat petang tuh pun ada..this is serious beb..not running away or avoiding..believe me..i would love to c u guys....

Sherita Aziz said...

cahaya dear, leh ajar tak mcm mana nak buat sticky note so that entry tuh asyik dok atas

Redbloodsnow said...

sape yg x heart singing wooo if sumone masok meminang. I'm happy too wif ur sis but when Zie continue bace :(...i felt bad for her sbb marriage x jd kan...

so it be so hard on her ar. klo Zie kompom aku dh melalak dlm bilik sorg² :(....

hermppphhh..sape lah jodoh zie ek...hehe. until now zie lom lg jumpe my mr. right :( darnnn!!!

CAHAYA said...

Axim,

Btol. Make sense. Tapi more to menyedapkan hati je kan? kan? kan? Hehe.

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Nik,

Haha. Yeah, I know you want to meet us. Kidding je. Lol. Have fun at your event, kalau sempat, jumpalah.

Thanks for read the whole entry. lol. :P

CAHAYA said...

SheritaAziz,

Actually Cahaya main belasah je. Nak ajar tak reti. Yang penting, Cahaya letak tarikh dia cam lebih2 sket, then post laju2. Erk, bleh faham ke ni.

Tapi, Sherry pakai 1 entry 1 page kan?

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Zie,

Itulah. But my sister sangat kuat. Tatau la kalau dia nangis melalak dlm bilik. :(

Tapi itulah, tak semua yang kita rancang akan jadi.

p/s: Cahaya pun wonder, dgn sapelah Cahaya end-up nanti. :P

DrSam said...

I am happy for your along. Wishing her a blessed relationship ahead.

CAHAYA said...

DrSam,

I guess you're one of them didn't read the whole entry. Gotcha! :P

There will be no wedding for Along. :(

mummysyafie said...

semua ni jodoh cahaya. yang pasti umo tu just angka.

cahaya...ai confuse la. u sarawakian ke? hihihihi...still confuse ni

CAHAYA said...

Betul. Angka je kan, yang makin bertambah. Huhu.

Mak Cahaya Sarawakian. Anak jati lagi tu. :P Kampung Lintang.

Cahaya orang campuran la kot, since Ayah orang Semenanjung. lol.

DrSam said...

Hi..hi..you almost got me.

Really that is my wish for her. I wish she is happy as I am now. And hoping for her to have a blessed and good relationship in the future.

CAHAYA said...

:) Yeah! Almost. Maybe. lol.

InsyaAllah.

Faisal said...

*slap those who didn't read till the end*

LOL.

You know I read from top to the bottom of the post.

Hell with the shallow minded people. You can't please the whole world and I know you understand that exactly. Don't you?

Maya Qistina said...

akak cahaya yg berseri2 bab cahaya bulan...haha
i ader tag u...

dukunlintah plk said...

statement dr landak laut ya boleh dipinjam kalau org tanya soalan bonos.. hehe..

CAHAYA said...

Faisal,

Haha. It's ok. I don't mind at all. :)

Yes. Homosapiens are hardly satisfied. But, it's ok to accept feedbacks once in a while. After all, we are what all we made of. :)

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MayaQistina,

Di'tag' ke? Baiklah. InsyaAllah. :P

p/s: berseri bak Cahaya bulan takpe, jangan berseri bak permukaan bulan. hahahha.

CAHAYA said...

dukunlintah,

Yep, statement konfem selamat punya. At this age we need this kinda statement to move on. :)

Catz said...

hi cahaya..

age is just a number...mungkin belum sampai lagi jodohnya...
dont worry..Tuhan nak menguji..mungkin nak dijumpakan dgn org yang jauhhhh lebih baik...
sabar..

CAHAYA said...

Hi Catz.

Mungkin betul apa Catz cakap pasal umur dan belum sampai jodoh tu. Wait and see la yer.

InsyaAllah ada jodoh yang lebih baik. (ayat penyedap hati drku.)

landaklaut said...

sorry to hear about ur along.. mungkin mmg bkn jodoh dia..

nway, if u found ur mr right, would u get marry right away or just wait until u r ready?

just a question though. :)

CAHAYA said...

landaklaut,

Yeah! Belum jodoh kot. :)

If I found my Mr Right. I will marry him at the 'right' time. Not too early, not too late. :)

izan said...

cahaya,

dengan along macam 2 orang yang kembar...

teruskan berdoa dan bersyukur... ceria dan gembira kan hati selalu..

jangan biar diri selalu berteka-teki... hadapi jer dengan berani dan tenang.

CAHAYA said...

Kembar eh? *blushing la camni. Hehe.

InsyaAllah akan amalkan. Thanks akak. :P