Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Why Ask the Same Q's?

Taken from GoogleImage
Korang macam mana, nak sign tak dokumen pindahmilik tu. Kak Mie korang tak nak sign.
**Okay, kitorang tak sign jugak lah.
Yelah, Mak bukan ape, kang sorang nak sign, sorang taknak.
**Yer, kan dah cakap, kitorang pun tak sign lah.
Mak tanya je. Korang nak sign ke tidak?
**Err.

Kau rasa salah Mak ke?
**Taklah, dia yang gatal.
Apa salah aku eh?
**Tak, Mak tak salah. Dia memang gatal.
Ko rasa apa salah Mak?
**Err.

Ko rasa macam mana? Patut ke Mak lepaskan?
**Ini semua di tangan Mak. Mak buat solat Istikarah, doa banyak2, supaya Mak diberi pilihan yang betul. InsyaAllah, Dia beri petunjuk.
Yelah, pendapat korang?
**Mak, ini bukan keputusan kami. Kami ikut apa yang Mak fikir terbaik.
Korang rasa?
**Err.

I hate to answer the same question over and over. But when it comes to my mum, I've to answer every single question although I've already answered the same one just the right second.

I've tried to be a good listener, but I just not good enough for her. I've tried to be the best for her, but I always end-up being the worst.

But, I will always answer you no matter what. Even I'm not the FAVORITE.

p/s: It's sad when you know that you're not the chosen one.

35 comments:

i.am.belle said...

it's alrite dear. you're not the only one.

parents mmg mcm tu. like myself, i don't expect much as long as i know i treat her right ;)

CAHAYA said...

Yeah! Parents are unpredictable. Wish I can read minds. :P

paan said...

macam kelakar plak dialog kat atas tue.

sometime dorang perlukan sokongan seseorang dalam membuat keputusan..

CAHAYA said...

sokongan eh? boleh je nak menyokong. InsyaAllah, selagi terdaya.

zEn Eizan said...

blur baca ni ...

cik siti penguin said...

i pun slalu kena jwb questions berkali2. haih =.=

CAHAYA said...

zen Eizan,

Read with open heart, sure you will find a way. Haha. :P

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Cik.Siti.Penguin,

Kita sekapal. Penat jugak menjawab. Tapi dah lama2 dah lali. Tapi penat. Sangat penat, lagi2 kalau soalan itu diajukan semasa kita tgh tidur. Siap kejut lagi. Huhu.

Catz said...

ehm..kadang org suka tanay ulang2 walaupun sebenarnya dia dah buat desicion...just nak sedapkan hati kot..or dia nak ada org sokong apa yg dia nak lakukan..
:)

Jard The Great said...

patience has its limit.. guess u found yours.. hehehe

burung ape?? burung aper?? ... 23x... burung murai!

CAHAYA said...

Catz,

Rasanya macam tu la. Tapi dah terlalu banyak. Kalau masukkan dlm entry ni, mesti berjela2 punya.

Akan cuba lebih tabah!

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Jard,

Haha. I'm losing it bit by bit. Will try to hold it together.

Wish I had the patience of encik BurungMurai itu.

Dj Epoi said...

Yap!!!!

Adakalanya begitu......

Bukan yang semua kita Suka orang Suka
Bukan yang Orang Suka kita pon Suka...

CAHAYA said...

Hmm. Ye kot!

HEMY said...

takpe la...mak kita tu..kn mcm iklan murai tu haaaa

iNsOmNiAc said...

that sounds SO like my mom...

i've spent all my life tryin to live up to her expectations & guess what, i was never, not even once, ever good enuf for her.

and so, i move away. far away...

so that she won't hurt me with her biasness,
so that i dun have to be rude to defend myself,
so that we can at least pretend that we’re still a family.

and yeah, it hurts like hell…

tchersally said...

Cahaya,
bear with her..after all she's ur mommy..believe me..i have "been there..done that"..yup..sad when we r not d chosen one..but later..only when she's gone..i got to realize..that kinda attitute towards me was just a sign that she felt safe n secured when she's communicating with me..and yes..u are d chosen one..in her own unique way..believe me..

izan said...

cahaya,

betul tu... semua orang pernah disituasi yang sama.

k zan memang tak mau ambil tau bab2itu. biar mereka memilih sendiri supaya tidak dipersalahkan dikemudian hari.

apa yang kita mau.... kita tak menyusahkan mereka. kecuali bab2 yang memang kita kena tolong seperti sakit peningnya, makan pakainya....

Faisal Admar said...

What she needs is your concern and know that you care about her.

When we get older, we will be facing the same thing :)

Inah said...

she is still ur mum dear..what ever happened :)

appreciate the people around us before we lose them ;)

Ad Rifza said...

Orang tuakan memang camtu..jawab jer..
Kena hormat apa sahaja diorg tanya..Jwab dengan baik..Kalo hati terluka tak elok taww..hehe..

amirul said...

Salam Cahaya,
Sabo je la... kekadang parents mmg camtu... suka mendapatkan pendapat anak2... mungkin lebih dipercayai... awab je selagi mampu... cume jgn melukakan hati mereka... mudah terguris... berhati2...

CAHAYA said...

HEMY,

Yelah, Mak kita kan? Nak buat camne. Layankan je la.

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Insomniac,

I've been trying for years now, still seems I'm never good enough for her. Sometimes, I think she gets me, then after I-don't-know-what she starts to not to. Ntahlah!

I'm staying on my own for a good 10 years now. I tried not to stay too close because I know I will end-up fighting over something ridiculous everyday.

But I managed to see her quite often, ulang alik. I will come over after work almost everyday. I think better that way.

Give her chances to miss me. :P

CAHAYA said...

TcherSally,

Yes, no matter what, she still my mum. I know that. I'm not complaining either. Just lately I know she's not quite ready yet to let go. And I pity her. I know at this time, she's on hard time. And if only God allows me to trade places with her. I would love to.

The comparing part was quite frustrating. But I believe that's part of the process too. Process of being a MUM. :P Hope I won't do the same when I get the chance to be one.

Maybe it's true what you've said, I'm the chosen one, in a very unique way. **and I don't even notice it. :(

Thanks TcherSally, you're the best!

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Kak Izan,

Part yang tak nak ambil tahu tu la kena 'ambil tahu'. Cahaya tak kesah. Asalkan masing2 boleh jaga hati masing2.

Pasal sakit pening tu tak payah ceritalah, semua anak tahu tanggungjawab dia. And I love my mum so much.

Menyusahkan itulah yang paling Cahaya cuba elakkan. Dia dah menderita, tak sanggup nak tambah.

CAHAYA said...

Faisal Admar,

I'm definitely don't want to face something like this in my older age. I will try not to. Or else, I taknak kawen langsung.

Yeah! I guess she needs my concern at first. After sometimes, I guess not.

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Inah,

Yes, I treasure every moment with her. I love her so much!

CAHAYA said...

Ad Rifza,

Setakat ni masih menjawab dengan elok. Dan jauh sekali nak lukakan hati Mak Cahaya. Cuma takut satu hari nanti Cahaya dah tak sabar. Itu sebab mencari jawapan di sini.

Kalau itu memang kebiasaan. Cahaya redha. Cahaya ikutkan saja.

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Amirul,

Tahu hati ibu mudah terguris. Bapa tu lantaklah. Tak peduli. Pandai2 la dia, dia pun lukakan hati kami semua lagi teruk kan? So buat ape nak kesah jaga hati dia.

Cahaya akan jawab selagi ada kudrat, ada hayat. :)

en_me said...

adalahh rahmat sumer tewww.. aminnn

CAHAYA said...

insyaAllah. aminnnnn. :P

cendawanintim said...

parents ni susah nak ramal, sebab pemikiran dia n kita tak sama langsung....

CAHAYA said...

Ye lah. Betul kot. Cahaya akan cuba sedaya upaya memahami. :P

[S]itie [B]Um [B]Um said...

ibubapa mmg centu..die nk pendapat anak2

MariaFaizal said...

Sweetie,
One day you're gonna be the coolest mom!

I just know it!

I think a lot of elderly parents are very indecisive, as if they don't have stand of their own. But, they are indeed doing some reality-checks of what's right & what's wrong.

Formerly I thought the IQ's dropping with increase of age, he he...Nope, I was wrong.Old folks have their own ways of making decisions/choices.The only difference with us - they have more PATIENCE than us :D (that's why they're wiser)

Cheers dik..

CAHAYA said...

siti_bum_bum,

Yes, I know that now. I was wrong before.

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Sis Maria,

Haha. Coolest mum meh? Like you? Best lah!

Yes, I agreed. Elderly kinda need approvals with everyone before they do any decision. They like to include us in the decision-making as well eventhough it is not our call.

As you've said, as they grow older, they became wiser. Wiser people always think for others first than themselves. I guess she just don't want us to be hurt later on. :(

Cheers Sis!

Suka Bebel said...

biasanya aku akan terus senyap kalau dalam situasi begitu.hehe

CAHAYA said...

Aku suka menjawab kot. Tapi dah banyak sangat soalan, aku pun mati akal. Huhu.

Redbloodsnow said...

ye yunk..mee too ar. x suke nk jwp soklan yg same jek..tp e2 lah, bile dh mak kte yg tanye...harus dijwp even a bit x suke kan utk menjwp..hehehe

CAHAYA said...

Cahaya dah cuba belajar memahami Mak. Memang kadang2 dia selalu keluar2 soalan sama, maybe dia nak kita tahu dia tgh runsing perkara tu. She's thinking a lotsa things.