“Connie, do you know why that little boy did those things? Because he likes you.”
“We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.”
- from a movie, 'He's Just Not That Into You'.
'He's Just Not That Into You' is a very simple and pretty straightforward movie. I went to watch it last night with Intan. It's romantic, funny and too much of everything kinda chick flick. Girls might like it. Guys, I'm not sure. I've seen guys laughed out loud in the cinema just now. But, none of them were came in single. This movie kinda make me wants to evaluate what's going on with my personal relationships though. So I like it. I wanna read the book too.
Like Gigi in this movie, I'm somehow like to reserve myself with my-so-called-own-excuses when the guys I've dated didn't call me back after the first date. True enough what Alex, one of the character said, where guys will definitely call if he wants to call. And same goes to if they want to go out or move forward - he'll definitely gonna tell, he definitely will make it work!
There's no such things as he might lost my number or anything. Or even if maybe he got hit by a cab or out of town. He's just not that into me. As simple as that!
When I was a little girl, I've been taught a lot of stuffs. Stuffs like we shouldn't trim our own bangs or else something bad will happen to you and stuff like when guys being or act like a jerk, punches or said bad things to you, that's just means he likes you. Funny. But, I'm kinda conned into that too.
My childhood thoughts also been abducted to something like - there's a guy for every each one of us and we will definitely get to our own happy ending. Every movie we saw, every story we read, make us want to wait for it. To wait for the 'right' person who we kinda believe as 'our own happy ending.' We just have to wait for the simple 'twist' and add some faith in it. He just need to make the declaration and he's all ours by exception. I like to believe that. Too much to be true, right? But, I still wanna believe.
But sometimes, too much of focusing to find the ultimate 'the one' or 'the happy ending' make us forget to see or read the signs. We tend to forget, after all this is a game for two. And it's definitely not only about one person, us. This movie made me realized about some signs that I actually ignored. The signs which pretty crystal clear. We really can tell whether the other person really wants to be with us and the person who don't. Same goes whether they wanna stay or leave at the end of the day.
Maybe happy ending is not about being together. You and me. But something else. Something like picking up all the pieces and moving on. Maybe it's fated that way. And he - the one who didn't returns our calls or messages, the one who ditches us and the one who embarrassed to be with us; are just not really for us. And they actually don't deserve to be with anybody. Keep the faith going on, will ya? I will. God works in mysterious way.
So to be exact, this 'He's Just Not That Into You', indeed, made me see that there's hope after all in this crazy world of love.
All girls should watch this. Definitely recommended!
p/s: alamak, tak sedar dah tulis panjang sangat. Ada ke orang baca ni?
p/s/s: Today is Ju's birthday. Happy Birthday Ju. Wish you many happy returns. Sushi yuk!